How to be successful: Part 3. It’s all about you.

“Success is not to be pursued;
it is to be attracted by
the person we become.”
– Jim Rohn


“Success is a state of mind.
If you want success, start thinking
of yourself as a success.”
– Dr. Joyce Brothers


“Successful and unsuccessful people do
not vary greatly in their abilities.
They vary in their desires to
reach their potential.”
– John Maxwell

“Always bear in mind that your own
resolution to succeed is more
important than any other one thing.”
– Abraham Lincoln


As you see, I’ve collected a few aphorisms from some successful people to share with you this week. I’ve done this mainly because I am getting dizzy from a bombardment by streams of success gurus and coaches and teachers all of  whom have “the solution”. Yep, they have a box of tricks (DVDs and CDs too) that for a measly few hundred $ they will share with me. All I have to do is follow the instructions on the box, take each step as prescribed, and POOF – all will be well. Success will follow.

Hmm. Is that how I have created success in the past, I asked myself, weary from the latest enthusiastic self-proclaimed teacher’s video? Nope.

Is it likely that if I do what he says, my business will explode?  Heck, I don’t know. I just know that it doesn’t feel right somehow. There is an ingredient missing on the list for this  success recipe  – and I know what it is.

The missing ingredient is the chef. The person who gets the box with all the ‘success secrets’ in it may open it and find that they are in love with the process straight away. Equally, the person who opens it may find that each step is an effort; boring, dull, mechanical and without a  heart. It all depends as ever, my friends, not so much what you do on the outside, but from where it sprang in your ‘inside’.

Success is about heart and faith more than anything, with stamina and persistence as their anchors and a deep love of what you are engaged in as the engine.

If you are truly following your heart’s direction, then what you need will be revealed to you. Yes, you may need to do new things – learn something, get training, borrow money – take on staff – but all of these things will come in a synchronistic flow, rather that following a pre-determined plan.

I read recently that Richard Branson’s first business – Virgin Records – never had a business plan. They just wanted to have fun and make enough money to pay their rent, buy stock and have some left over to party with. Think of the spirit of joy and faith that fuelled that empire! I’m not advocating that you part with sensible business practices – we all know what a month’s invoicing can do to a sunny day – but that you let heart lead, and your head can do the book-keeping.

Next time you are offered the answer to your prayers on a plate, just ask yourself -before you invest – is this really for me – or am I just avoiding going a bit deeper within myself to find my own answers?  Have a cup of tea and a biscuit, walk the dog, rock out to something you can’t sit still to, call a friend – get in touch with the real you for a second – and then see if you still want to buy that box of sure-fire success tricks.


  • Linda

    As always Debs you give us food for thought. Made me smile when you talk about the missing ingredient being the chef. For I always think when I cook up my ‘WANTED CAKE’ to make sure I always add the exact ingredients to make the cake rise. In other words when I ask for what I want, I leave nothing to be left to chance. Good reading from you yet again.

    • I love to hear from you Linda. You always have something positive to gently add to the mix! I trust you are enjoying all the new life around you? Love Debs