There’s just something so – rock like – about the word ‘resolve’. It feels rigid. I don’t think anything beautiful can grow around something so unbending. Nature is movement. We are movement. Why set a rigid framework and make life tough, when you can achieve the same results with more grace, more fluidity?
Of course you want change. And why shouldn’t you? It’s your nature. But this year, use a new approach – something more akin to dancing, to having fun. Forget “put your back into it”. Dispense with “No pain, no gain” and run away from “put your nose to the grindstone”. Find a lighter way.
Choose. Make a choice that is for you, that flows from a deep, honest place of longing and desire. Make that choice and love it. Love the feelings it brings, even if tears are mixed in. Then commit. Make the next step and make it bold. Write down your desire as though it were a statement from your heart to a close friend. For instance, a desire to be slimmer could be written as:
I really long to have a slimmer body. I’d love to wear skinny jeans, to look down at my lovely flat belly, to wear a bikini and feel sexy in it. I’d feel so light, so sassy. There is a smile on my face and a spring in my step when I picture this. I can see me eating foods that help my body be healthy and slim. I can feel the sweat from having a great work out or dancing. I know it will mean I make changes and I can already see, feel and know what those changes need to be. It starts now”.
Then add: –
“I am doing this for me, because I care for me. I love me. I really do. I may waver, but that’s OK. I may have days when it doesn’t go well, and that’s normal. And yet, I will continue. I will not abandon me however long it takes”.
Keep the last part in mind always. Write it down and put it in your purse, your pocket, on your desk, so when the hard times and challenges strike, you can hold onto something to steer you through. Your love and determination will steer you through – and there’s nothing wrong with a bit of resolve either, but allow yourself to be human! Remember, in the battle of rock vs. water, the result is always a beach for the waves to play on!!